Recently I attend a 3 day workshop on how to write a best-selling book. This workshop took up Friday, Saturday and Sunday. This was a Seminar that came highly recommended not just on how to write a best-selling book, but also that it would provide some invaluable resources and marketing strategies. So I took on the advice and recommendation and went along. I was excited to learn from it and meet some soon to be authors.
One of the things I love about going to these types of workshops is that you are usually surrounded by like-minded people who are on a mission to achieve something for themselves, for their business or for their communities. The energy in rooms like this is usually buzzing with excitement and anticipation of what could be. So, I enjoy being part of them.
However, it was on day 3 that I made an interesting observation. It was during a well-deserved break for afternoon tea. I was chatting with one of the authors (whose book was currently in print) and she was sharing her excitement about it. While we were chatting, one of the other participants came to join us. What was interesting was that the author did not acknowledge her in any way. Further to that, within a few minutes the author left our conversation. That had me wondering about what just happened. Who is the woman who has sat down next to me and why did the author leave quite quickly?
Well, it all became quite evident soon enough. After the author left us, I politely asked the woman about how she was enjoying her time at the workshop. It wasn’t so much what she said, but the way she spoke. She spoke all about how tired she was in a very sleepy voice. Her physical state was so crouched over that she may as well have been asleep. As I continued to talk to her, I could feel the energy drain from every part of my body. It didn’t matter how I kept up my own energy, I was sinking further and further.
Now I got it! The author was fully aware of the energy that this woman brought about and didn’t want to engage in it. She walked away from it. I did the same.
As I walked away I realised how many people I get to meet. I meet all sorts and participate in many conversations. I realised on that day, how willing I am to stop engaging with people that drown out my energies. I realised that I am particular with who I hang out with, how much time I spend with them and what conversations I will take part in. Over a period of time I have transformed how I protect myself from absorbing negative energy from people that I meet. It works well for me!
Today is a reminder to be aware of who you spend your time with and what conversations you engage in. Take notice of how your energy shifts when speaking with people and how it makes you feel. Undoubtedly, if you want to keep your energy high and positive, don’t hang out with people who drain you. Remember that you become who you hang out with. My mother reminds me of this all the time. It’s always good to be reminded. I found this quote that sums it up nicely.
“Don’t let negative people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and kick them out!“ – Robert Tew
I totally agree. I hope you do too. Raise your ‘rent’ by raising your standards and ‘kick out’ any negative space in your head that people may take up.